Lessons From A Four Year Old

By: Jconnphoto

Aug 03 2011

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Category: Kids, People, Personal


Focal Length:84mm
Shutter:1/0 sec
Camera:Canon EOS 5D Mark II

Photo blog day 346, August 3, 2011

Lately my thoughts have been very centered on my son’s behavior. Like many parents with a 4 year old I often feel at a loss as to how to discipline him. He’s my first born and we are paving the way of child/parent roles together. So I’ve been paying close attention to how he acts lately and I’ve noticed that I could learn a thing or two from him.  Here are a couple that stand out right now:

Things I learned (more like trying to learn) from my four year old.

1.       Let it go. Our son gets punished more often than I wish he would. There’s something about that time out corner though. In the four minutes and 30 seconds that he is there he somehow manages to process the wrongdoing and let it go. Most of the time as soon as the time out is over he’s back to his normal self. Not angry with me for punishing him. He comes bouncing out of the corner playing and smiling. We do the little “Super Nanny” what-did-you-do-wrong-and-you-need-to-say-you’re-sorry deal and it’s over. For the longest time I felt that his post-T.O. behavior was negative. How could he have no remorse for his wrongdoing? Now I feel like it’s a positive trait because he’ll be less stressed as an adult if he lets things go.  I SO wish I could let it go at that point but usually I can’t. My jaw stays clenched long after.

2.       Look forward to little things. We made pudding pops recently and about every 15 minutes my son asked if they were ready. I take for granted little pleasures like getting an iced coffee from Starbucks. Imagine if the barista handed over my drink and I punched my fist in the air screaming “YES!!!!” the way my son does when he gets his little treats?

3.       Lower my expectations. Recently after a day out my son asked me if he had been good.  On this rare occasion that his behavior was gold star I responded yes. He was thrilled. I hadn’t even realized he was making such an effort to be good. I’m so used to having to correct his behavior that on that day I forgot to reinforce the good behavior and he had to draw my attention to it. I realized that my expectations of his 4 year old brain were so high he couldn’t reach them so he had to drag that bar down and focus on his behavior one day at a time.

4.       Exercise. (This is less profound that the things above) My son runs everywhere. Runs. Like full speed sprinting. He’s in such a hurry to have fun he can’t stop himself. The only time I run is when I’m late. Or if it’s raining and I forgot my umbrella. I’d like to run towards something that would be fun. Like from the parking lot into the movie theater. Or the sale rack at DSW.

5.       Diet. He eats until he’s full. No more no less. If he’s not hungry  he doesn’t eat (this can be a real pain when dinner is at 5:30 and he skips it then is hungry at 6:30 when all the dishes are done and the food put away). As far as treats go they are in moderation. If he has oreos he gets 2. Jelly beans are 3 at a time or a 2” square of brownie. He asks for more, of course, but I don’t give in because we all know sugar isn’t good for a 4 year old with copious amounts of energy. I would love to apply these rules to my daily diet! Combine this with #4 and you have the secret to staying thin!


I’m sure this list will get longer and longer but this is what is on my mind today.



2 comments on “Lessons From A Four Year Old”

  1. It is amazing what we can learn if we just take the time to pay attention, especially from children!

  2. Your a wonderful mom and I adore my “little dickens.”. Great photo too!

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